A few weeks ago, I did reporting for a local poker tournament in Minnesota.
I do this occasionally because I enjoy it — even though as a player, it’s sort of embarrassing to be with all of these players who are asking me why I’m not playing.
It can feel a bit humbling and embarrassing, frankly. Not in a way that reflects on the job (it’s tougher than you think to do it well as a one-person crew), but it’s like being a ball boy at a tennis match when you don’t make the cut for the tournament.
It reminded me of being a young actuary, still trying to provide income, and I took tickets at the state fair as a part-time job. I kept thinking “please no one I know come through my line.” But actually, I enjoyed it so I kept doing it.
I learned a lot about my privilege during these times, but I also learned that there is this force/feeling called embarrassment that can keep us from things we really enjoy.
This is a reminder that it’s okay to feel embarrassed. In fact, sometimes it’s actually beneficial for your growth.
In my last keynote, I actually sang! I’m not a great singer but it was the right message with the right feeling that needed to be done.
It brought me joy although I was a little embarrassed — but the crowd reaction made me know I made the right choice.
Let me be your cheering audience when you put joy before embarrassment.
It’s tough, I know… but this is part of The Safari Way of living!
Steve Fredlund, The Safari Dude
Life is an adventure. Make it epic.
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About The Author
Steve Fredlund is an award-winning keynote speaker, two-time TEDx presenter, and bestselling author of Do the Unright Thing: Memoir of a People Pleaser. After decades as an actuary, executive, entrepreneur, and nonprofit founder—including leading humanitarian efforts in East Africa—Steve discovered that doing everything “right” doesn’t always lead to fulfillment or impact.
Drawing from that journey, he developed The Courage Advantage™ philosophy—centered on the everyday courage to move beyond expectation, lead with authenticity, and live in alignment with what truly matters. Through his engaging stories, humor, and practical insights, Steve inspires audiences to find greater clarity, connection, and fulfillment in both life and leadership.